Filling My Prayer Closet

About that Veiling Debate

Becoming Catholic, Evangelization, PrayerCristina 46 Comments

I have been very quiet about veiling, since I hosted a massive veil giveaway with some veil makers last Advent. I then wrote about the topic, and shared my experiences about this part of my faith. I've been silent because I stopped veiling. There, I said it. I'm not interested in the debate over why women choose to wear it, or why they don't. Having a debate over veiling or head coverings is petty. There, I said that too. I've spoken with friends about it and explained my thinking. Here's the debate that I've seen, played out, on social media.

I don't think women should wear veils to mass. The women that I've seen come off as holier-than-thou and it's not really a rule anyway.

We don't have to adhere to old-fashioned dogma. We don't sit separately from men at mass, do we? I mean, let's get with it.

I think women should wear veils to mass, this is how they show others that they revere the Real Presence of Our Lord.

I think those that don't veil are giving the impression to others that they don't know what they're participating in when they come to mass.  Wearing a veil could open the topic of discussion with other women who are curious, don't you want to Evangelize?

You look like an Islamic woman, you're not wearing it right. If you can't afford a real veil made by a Catholic, you shouldn't wear one at all. I'm sorry I didn't know that she wasn't a Catholic veil maker. 

You know, it's not just Catholic's that veil, it's not just your faith that veils, but others too. Stop claiming it for yourselves.

If you're going to veil, you shouldn't post pictures of yourself wearing them because you're giving off the wrong impression, like it's a fashion statement. You're making the "devotion" about you, when it should be about Him. 

Veiling is not a devotion, it's just something I like to do, stop calling it that. Praying the rosary is a devotion, get the difference?

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And I know this topic will start a debate like no one has ever seen on this blog. I know I am going to piss people off. I am not saying anything to hurt anyone, but this topic is so divisive no matter how you slice it. It's that much of a flaming topic. And really, isn't that what's so sad?

There are more examples I could share on both sides of the debate, but these, are the ones that irk me the most. Do these sound catty to you? They should, because they are. Why did I decide to leave my veils alone, neatly packaged for when I am ready (if ever) to wear them again? I don't want what I wear or choose not to, to contribute to a senseless, assumptions based debate.

But why is it senseless, Cristina?

I am so glad you asked. All of these arguments are around what women think other women think of them. Not what they know. As far as I can tell, no one has ever asked anyone else if they wear a veil because they feel holier-than-thou. As far as I can tell, no one has ever asked anyone why they don't and received a response "get with the times". And as far as I can tell, I don't read about women posting pictures of themselves because they want all the attention, or to try and get the likes of Beyonce to take notice.

I still have a Pinterest board devoted to women who wear veils, again, I am not hating on anyone who chooses to wear them or chooses not to. I got love for everybody, we all know that. I am all about inspiring and building up of people, women especially, because honestly, we sorely need it. I think we can all agree on that.

So, if you choose to comment, please do so with respect for me, yourselves and for those who visit. I am not saying that you should or shouldn't veil. I am not committing a sin whether I wear a veil to mass or not. Nor are you, for that matter. What I am saying is, just do what you feel personally called to do, and quit arguing about it. God don't like ugly; and arguing based on assumptions? Ugly.

So let them argue, I'll be here, having a sandwich.

*jumps off the soap box*